Woman standing in a golden cage looking toward a path to freedom

Your Cage Map

Name it to escape it.

Most people feel trapped but struggle to say exactly why. This assessment maps the five walls around you so you can see where you are, and where your opening is.

Before you start

Rate each question to the best of your ability. 1 means this particular wall barely applies to you. 5 means it feels completely sealed. At the end, you will see your personal cage map and the wall most likely to give way first.

Wall 1: Financial

The Money Wall

Financial control is one of the most common tools in a narcissist's toolkit. It keeps you dependent and makes leaving feel impossible from the outside, even when it is not.

How much do they control your access to money?

I have full access I cannot access money without them

How confident are you that you could fund a move right now?

Very confident I have nothing I could use

How closely do they monitor your spending or savings?

They have no idea They track everything

Wall 2: Social

The Isolation Wall

Narcissists shrink your world over time. Not all at once. Slowly and quietly, until leaving feels like stepping off a cliff with no one to catch you.

How isolated do you feel from friends and family right now?

I have a strong support circle I feel completely alone

How much have they damaged your relationships with people who matter to you?

Not at all I have lost most of them

If you had to call someone for help tonight, how confident are you that they would come?

Very confident I do not know who I would call

Wall 3: Emotional

The Inner Wall

The hardest wall to name. Guilt, shame, love, and fear can keep you locked in long after the physical barriers are gone. This is not weakness. It is what abuse does to the nervous system.

How much does guilt or shame stop you when you think about leaving?

It does not stop me It stops me every time

How often do you still find yourself hoping they will change?

Rarely Almost every day

How clear is your sense of who you are outside of this relationship?

I know exactly who I am I have lost myself completely

Wall 4: Legal

The Paper Wall

Shared property, leases, marriage, children. Legal ties can feel like handcuffs. Most of them have a key, but you need to know where to look for it.

How many legal ties do you currently have with them?

None Multiple, feel impossible to untangle

How much access do you have to your own important documents?

Full access They control all of it

How well do you understand what legal support is available to you?

I know exactly where to go I have no idea where to start

Wall 5: Practical

The Logistics Wall

Where would you go? What would you take? Who would help you move? This wall comes down to one question: what does Day One actually look like for you?

How clear is your plan for where you would go if you left tonight?

I have a plan ready I have nowhere to go

How much does not having a plan stop you from taking action?

It does not stop me It is the main reason I stay

How prepared do you feel for the practical side of leaving?

I feel ready I feel completely unprepared

See your cage

When you are ready, generate your personal map. It will show you which walls are strongest and exactly where your opening is.

Please complete all five walls before generating your map.

Your Cage Map

Larger shape = thicker walls. The teal label is your opening.

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