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The Document Vault
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The Document Vault

What is yours belongs to you. All of it.

A narcissist often controls documents the same way they control everything else — by making you feel you have no access, no rights, and no recourse. This vault walks you through every document you need, your legal right to have it, and exactly what to do if it has been taken from you.

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Identity Documents

My identity was never theirs to keep.

Legal Documents
Financial Documents

I am entitled to know what we built together.

Property and Assets
Medical Records and Evidence

What happened to me is real. And the record of it belongs to me.

Where to Store Your Documents

Gathering the documents is only half the task. Where you keep them determines whether they stay safe.

Trusted person outside the home

A family member, close friend, or colleague. Someone they have no access to. Physical copies or digital files stored on their device.

Your own private cloud account

A new Google Drive, Dropbox, or iCloud account created on a device they do not have access to. Not a shared account. Not the family account.

A DV shelter or legal aid office

Many domestic violence organisations will securely hold copies of your documents on your behalf. Ask them directly.

A safety deposit box

At a bank they have no association with. In your name only. One they cannot access without your presence and your key.

Shared iCloud or Google account

If they know your Apple ID or Google password — or share a family plan — they can see everything you upload. Use a completely separate account.

Shared devices or the family home

Any device they have access to, or any location inside the home, is not safe. Do not keep the only copy somewhere they can find or destroy it.

Take photographs as a backup

If you cannot physically take a document, photograph every page on your phone. Email those photos to a private email account they do not know about. Even a photo of a document has been accepted as evidence in court proceedings.

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Disclaimer: The information in this worksheet is provided for general guidance and educational purposes only. It does not constitute legal, financial, or professional advice. Laws vary by jurisdiction — please consult a qualified legal professional or domestic violence specialist before taking action based on this material. Holistic Healing Horizons accepts no liability for actions taken or not taken based on the content of this worksheet.